How to Get Brave Enough to Talk to Girls
- 1). Formulate a plan of attack. Everything you say or do doesn't have to be memorized or practiced but have something in mind just in case you fold under the pressure when on the spot. Thinking about topics of conversation that may interest you or a good introduction of yourself may benefit you by at least giving you a solid way to start.
- 2). Try not to beat yourself down. Many times before approaching girls, your first instinct is to think everything you say or do is not going to be good enough, especially if the girl is popular. This is a mistake that will work against you before you even open your mouth. If you don't have confidence in the things you say and think, it is unlikely the girl will have confidence in you. People are usually their own biggest critics so don't kill your chances before you even take a shot.
- 3). Stay in your league. Although it is important not to beat yourself down, you should also not have overly elevated expectations. Having expectations that are too high coupled with rejection will eventually begin to wear your self esteem down. Be honest with yourself about where you are on the global scale of expectations. If you are a 5 on a scale of 1 to 10, don't talk to someone who is a 10 and realistically expect them to react positively to your advances. Stay on your level and only go to the next when you know you have reason to.
- 4). Be your best you. Take the time to work on your appearance, attitude and personality. Being secure with yourself in these areas will allow you the confidence to talk to girls more freely. The better you see yourself the more you exude confidence to others; the trick is not being overly cocky all the time. Figure out who your best "you" is and show that side to others. Girls will be more likely to respond to you in the ways you want them to if you are walking, talking, and being your best.
- 5). Hone your skills. Practice either talking to yourself in the mirror or talking in groups at party situations, whether with classmates or at public events to build confidence. Be sure not to focus too much on one person in order to gauge the responses you get when you put your skills to use from multiple personalities. This will help you be able to recognize responses you get personally and adjust when talking to a girl you like when the time comes.
- 6). Dust your shoulders off. Keep in mind that even if you follow all this advice and do your best, that you may still experience some type of rejection. This may shake your confidence a little but you should never let it keep you down forever. The quicker you dust yourself off and get back into the loop, the quicker you will be able to find someone who will not reject you. The true mark of a brave person is when adversity hits and how they rise to the occasion whether the occasion or situation is good or bad.